October 21, 2011 §
Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same. – Flavia Weedn
Human nature cannot be predicted. We all think that we know somebody. That means that we believe that we know how a friend or family member would react to a situation. Do we really?
Even though it is fantastic to have friends, some friendships just do not last forever. When friends change or when friendships change, it can be difficult. You’d like to think that all of your best friends will always be there for you, but sometimes friends change. This might be a change for the better, and it can work great with your friendship. But, it might not be such a positive change, and if that is the case, your friendship might have to end.
Change is a natural part of growth. When people grow, they change. As people get older, they have different ideas. Sometimes, people change as they learn more things about the world. This is a natural part of growing up. If you can hang on to your friends as you all change, you’ll find that your relationships will get stronger.Although everyone changes, sometimes a friend changes in a different way. You might have a friend, or even a group of friends, that go in a totally different direction from where you are going. This might make you feel left behind. It might be that your friend is suddenly into things that you don’t care about, or is hanging out with people that you really don’t want to be friends with. Most of the time, friends don’t do this in order to hurt you. It is simply a matter of growing up – changing feelings and beliefs, as well as attitudes and interests. But, of course, it still hurts to feel left behind. Some friends are only meant to be in your life for a single reason, or a single part of time. When these friends have served their purpose (or you have served your purpose for them), you’ll both move on to new friends. Everyone is put into your life for a reason.
Changing friends is part of life – and a necessary one – because as certain friendships grow apart you’ll learn the things about yourself and the kinds of friendships that you want to have. You’ll think more about what you want to look for in a friend and you’ll learn about things that you want to avoid having in a friend. Changing friends is part of life. It is a part of life from which you can learn a great deal if you take the time to reflect on what is happening and why – as well as what you can do to make the situation turn out as positive as possible. Keep a bright outlook and you will do well.
My personality and views on life have changed immensely over the few years I’ve been away(I moved from Zamboanga to Manila 3 years ago, for security reasons), so I am guilty of this as well. I didn’t even know a person can change that quickly. I haven’t seen my friends in a long time. I am making a huge effort in keeping in touch with all my friends I left back home. Some are responding, and some…eh not so much. It broke my heart, but I learned to accept the fact that people change. Change IS a part of life. And when you learn to accept and move on without holding a grudge, life will be much easier. No, I am not hallucinating nor have I lost it. I’ve just been coming to terms with life and people around me. I realized that with every relationship there is a fine line, some more visible than others. And no one is really ours……are they?